You don’t have to be ‘gay’ to enjoy sexual experiences with men. MSM (Men who have Sex with Men) is now an accepted term. MSM and GAY are different things. MSM refers only to sexual activities between men, regardless of how a guy identifies in his sexuality (their sexual attraction to others). In other words, it’s now recognised that having sex with men doesn’t always mean the person is gay. Being gay involves wanting an intimate and /or romantic relationship with another man. MSM is just about sex and the enjoyment of it